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| Part of your reaction may stem from the fact that you were dancing tango...
Perhaps that's the emotions that this dance causes in you. For us (and we love tango! perhaps more than any other dance) it's a rather aggresive dance - with agression and violence barely held in check... That's what we feel like and that's what we try to show.
Of course, we never fight physically. :)
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| I never think of Tango as aggressive or violent. I think of it as sexually provocative, with an emotional expression similar to Bolero.
Jerry |
| Jerryblu, Of course, everyone has his/her own feeling of dance moods. Even different versions of the same song may cause different interpretation by the same couple...
Basically, for me, tango emotions are defined by the original Argentine tango history. It did grow up in a rather dangerous environment - with predominantely male population, the tradition of knife fights and violence. Is it also sexual? Of course - but one does not exclude the other...
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| if you are haveing difficulty with anger and your partner, frist of all the issue of your partner making a mistake, bring it up with him that you think he may be doing it incorrectly, because it "feels wrong to you" and you think your doing it correctly. also, as for anger in general, next time it happens just stop for a min and breathe deep, have a sit for a min if its that bad. recently my partner and i are haveing trouble with vinenese waltz, well hes not, i am. and i was getting very frustrated with myself, because i knew how to do the moves, i knew what i was doing wrong, but i couldnt get my body to do them correctly, i had to just stop and sit down for a min. also, are you sure his os off balance? i cant think of the word he uses, but my instructor tells my partner to sort of charge through me with large steps, if your not ready for it, or simply dont know about it, it feels very wrong and very off balance. that could be whats going on. |
| My partner sometimes (dancing socially) is like a backseat driver telling me specific things like--lower your rt. shoulder, take bigger steps, don't sway so much, stay down more on Foxtrot, smile, keep your frame down and in place, hold your head up, and smile. I'm also trying to count the beat, do floor craft, select patterns, think about my technique.
She is a better trained dancer than me, so I tolerate it. She is Eastern Europeon and is used to some very tough dance intruction. We have been dancing together for 5 years, so I am sort of gotten used to it. Most of the time she is correct and is doing what she believes is helpful. All of this would really irritate me, but now it doesn't.
I took lots of lessons on Hustle and WCS and taught her these dances. She caught on to theses dances very quickly. Now we do about 16 different dances together, so there is plenty of room for improvement.
There is lots of give and take in a partnership, but when you have a female partner thats better than you--there is more taking on your part. |
| It's normal to be upset with someone for losing contact through the body, having a heavy arm, shuffling the feet, or looking stupidly at you when they should be watching the LOD for problems.
It's also normal for the lead to be upset with the follow for having her feet perpetually right underneath his, not doing a dip correctly, or over-rotating the couple in pivot action.
It's even normal to be so frustrated that you stop, pull apart, and exclaim "Oh, for phuq's SAKE- can you JUST STAY AWAKE here? I mean DAMMIT..."
It might also be normal to give him a contemptuous shove, or make abrupt, angry movements- afterall, your anger has to come out somewhere, somehow.
However, it's NOT normal to breed a "safe environment" for "violence"- be it shoving, hissing, or snarling.
When I feel so angry that I could punch my partner in the nose, or call him an idiot, I remember what my family has done to me my entire life, and think "it's just a freakin' dance- does he really deserve it for THAT?", lose connection, put my street shoes on and quit for that session. We'll go to Subway, talk about what's wrong, and why I think he should fall into a sulphuric abyss of torture and dammnation, he'll tell me why he thinks it happened, we'll think on it, and go back to the studio and work it out.
Just like with training horses- some days, you won't be able to get through. Just put the tack up and walk away from it. Unless you get hit by a train, you will be able to come back and try again tomorrow. |
| awesome post! I so totally experience this frustration...it is a relief that others too endure such! |
| Jim . If all the things you write are thrown at you by your partner who is supposedly a more experienced dancer i would suggest that you are trying to do far more than you should be doing . Unless you are capable of doing the Basics perfectly I would take myself to a good beginners class or an intermidiate class that will teach the basic action, stance and so on correctly. |
| I'm sorry but I'm just learning English language.Could someone please tell me what this word "LOL"means. |
| Laughing Out Loud.
It's not English, it's computerspeak.
Jerry |
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