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Re: Asking a guy to dance
Posted by Quickstep
3/17/2006  10:43:00 PM
Rita Gwen. If the man is alone . That is not with a partner or girl friend. Then why not ask. It is probably better if you know he can or cannot dance before you make your way across the floor. In recent years it seems to have dropped off here, but there was always a number of Ladies invitation Dances as well as an Excuse me Dance where men or ladies could cut in whilst the dance was in progress. Best of luck
Re: Asking a guy to dance
Posted by JimInBuffalo
3/22/2006  4:45:00 PM
Rita, My understanding, and from what I have observed in most social situations locally, is that it is most acceptable for a lady to ask a man to dance. From the practical side, most dances that I go to have far fewer men than women. If you are a single woman at a dance then you need to ask or you will be waiting a long time to get a dance in. This is the biggest complaint that I hear from ladies in our area. I have discussed this with other guys and we are very flattered by an invitation to dance. I never look at it as anything beyond a social dance and it is very good for leaders or followers to dance with new partners to hone their skills. I spoke to a lady who is taking lessons from a chain studio (AM) and her biggest fear right now is that she cannot dance with anyone except her instructor. I told her to get out to the local dances and ask as many men as possible to dance with her.
My contention is: if you learn the steps and practice on a regular basis then you should be able to dance with anyone else who is at the same level of instruction.

Please if you are out and there is an available man, ask him to dance, you won't regret it. -Jim
Re: Asking a guy to dance
Posted by Foxtrotter52
4/26/2006  5:25:00 PM
I usually ask the ladies to dance, but if a lady asks me to dance I will always accept their invitation. I love to dance and am flattered when someone asks me to dance. Women should ask men to dance, sometimes guys get a little nervous and won't ask.
Andy
Re: Asking a guy to dance
Posted by Jim
4/26/2006  7:51:00 PM
My social dance buddy is a very accomplished dancer and she is very aggressive socially. She will ask anyone to dance, especially if she feels that they are a good dancer. She very seldom gets rejected. All the guys seem to like dancing with her.

It helps if a lady can dance when asking a guy to dance. Most guys, including myself welcome ladies to ask us to dance.

Most beginners are a little overwhelmed and shy when they first start dancing, but as their skills increase--they get less timid.

Re: Asking a guy to dance
Posted by darcy
7/1/2006  4:14:00 PM
Don't worry just ask!

Of course I'll dance with you!
Re: Asking a guy to dance
Posted by Lol
9/16/2007  2:45:00 PM
Lol that was hilarious
Re: Asking a guy to dance
Posted by dances4joy1424
4/18/2008  6:13:00 AM
The way I go about asking a guy to dance is to say "would you save me a waltz tonight" or "save me a foxtrot if you can". That way, if he doesn't come get me no one knows that I have been turned down, and if he does come to get me it looks great and it shows that I am approachable to other potential partners in the room. What I have trouble with is, at least in our town where there is a USA Dance chapter of which I am a charter member and past president, that the married couples absolutely will not ask others to dance. We recently had a members only dance as a free bonus event. Myself and another single woman were the only two singles in the whole room and it took 45 minutes to have someone ask me to dance. When its your own dance comrades/colleagues I find it to be very hurtful. We just live in an area that is "couples" oriented with few singles so I have to ask others to dance. Maybe this is a whole other post
Re: Asking a guy to dance
Posted by FallsHiker
10/30/2009  8:42:00 AM
I'm just starting out with my dancing lessons and the social dance is quite intimidating since I've no partner to take with me, and the crowd is much older than me, meaning I know no one in the room.

You have no idea how welcome I'd feel if some woman said to me, 'you look new here, would you come Cha-Cha with me?' or Waltz, or foxtrot, or whatever dance happened to be playing.
Re: Asking a guy to dance
Posted by pivotingfool
10/30/2009  9:43:00 PM
Go ahead and ask. I would ask you to consider that the guy might not want to dance with you all night.

One dance per guy, per evening, is plenty.

Some women ask five or more times during the evening. This is unfair to the men. The men paid to get into the hall, and they may not want to spend the whole evening teaching you to dance. (Or worse, fighting you for the lead.)

If you try to follow, most good male dancers will like to dance with you. If you insist on doing it your way, most good leaders won't enjoy dancing with you.

A better plan is to smile when ever a guy looks your way. Another thing to do is stand near a place where there is traffic.

Last night a women stood on the edge of the floor and swayed with the music.

I ended up asking her to dance three times.

You should remember that if you ask, the man has a right to say no. If you can not take rejection, don't ask.
Re: Asking a guy to dance
Posted by dheun
11/2/2009  10:22:00 AM
I went to a social dance in my hometown, and there was a woman who came from about 40 miles away to attend. But she had no partner with her. I knew this from talking to her earlier in the evening. My wife encouraged me to ask her to dance so she wouldn't go all night without a spin on the floor. So I did, and she really appreciated it. My point? This is a case in which the lady should have been asking a few men. If she was uncomfortable about us having our own partners or wives with us, she could always check with the lady first. Most that I know would say it was OK. Far better to ask than not to dance at all.

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