Re: Anger with partner Posted by Jim 4/18/2006 9:53:00 AM
My partner sometimes (dancing socially) is like a backseat driver telling me specific things like--lower your rt. shoulder, take bigger steps, don't sway so much, stay down more on Foxtrot, smile, keep your frame down and in place, hold your head up, and smile. I'm also trying to count the beat, do floor craft, select patterns, think about my technique.
She is a better trained dancer than me, so I tolerate it. She is Eastern Europeon and is used to some very tough dance intruction. We have been dancing together for 5 years, so I am sort of gotten used to it. Most of the time she is correct and is doing what she believes is helpful. All of this would really irritate me, but now it doesn't.
I took lots of lessons on Hustle and WCS and taught her these dances. She caught on to theses dances very quickly. Now we do about 16 different dances together, so there is plenty of room for improvement.
There is lots of give and take in a partnership, but when you have a female partner thats better than you--there is more taking on your part.