Log In



   Stay logged in?

Forgot Password?

User Status




Recover Password

Username or Email:

Change Image
Enter the code in the photo at left:

Before We Continue...

Are you absolutely sure you want
to delete this message?

Premium Membership

Upgrade to
Premium Membership!

Renew Your
Premium Membership!


Premium Membership includes the following benefits:

Don't let your Premium Membership expire, or you'll miss out on:

  • Exclusive access to over 1,400 video demonstrations of patterns in the full bronze, silver and gold levels.
  • Access to all previous variations of the week, including full video instruction of man's and lady's parts.
  • Over twice as many videos as basic membership.
  • A completely ad-free experience!


Sponsored Ad

+ View Older Messages

Re: Dance teacher leaves wife for student.
Posted by secret
2/7/2007  7:49:00 AM
I agree with the post above. I mean, what were the husband and the new girl thinking? That they could just do this without anyone noticing and carry on as usual?
I don't want to judge or anything, but I must say I definitely feel for the ex-wife. It's not a pleasant situation to be in already, and by not relocating you're putting yourself in a more akward situation.

And yes, extra measures should be taken. If you are easily seduced by someone else and will break up with your wife to be with him/her, then maybe (just maybe) being a dance instructor is not for you.
Re: Dance teacher leaves wife for student.
Posted by I-Just-Wanna-Dance
2/7/2007  8:56:00 AM
Everyone continues to believe that it's all the student dancer's fault for the break-up; that she manipulated said pro into leaving his wife. Did the thought ever cross your mind (and don't you think it's possible - and most likely) that the husband and wife were having problems long before the student came into the picture. Separations don't just happen overnight, and the causes are usually far deeper reaching than any outsider could/would know without being one of the two parties involved.
Re: Dance teacher leaves wife for student.
Posted by I-Just-Wanna-Dance
2/7/2007  9:21:00 AM
By the way... I'm not saying I agree with what happened. I'm just saying that IF the ALLEGED incident took place, it is not because the pro is "easily seduced" or because the student is/was on a power trip. I'm saying that there likely was something going on between the married couple that no one else knows about. I'm not placing blame on anyone; I'm simply saying that NO ONE in this forum knows the whole story, only the parties directly involved, and until THEY decide to shed further light on the subject, everyone else should butt out, stop gossiping/speculating and be supportive on the married couple.

Oh, and BornToDance... I don't think or wonder of a situation as this could/would happen to me. I'm secure in my relationship with my significant other. It may be human nature to some people to worry about things like that; however that energy should be getting invested into your relationship and not wasted on suspicion.
Re: Dance teacher leaves wife for student.
Posted by Ellen
2/7/2007  10:55:00 AM
No, I've never been the victim of gossip, but there are some people like you in my dance community, who spend more time sitting on the sidelines making nasty comments about other people than they do dancing. Trust me, they (and you?) are a less attractive sight and more of a detriment to the dance community than the people they delight in talking about.

Anyone who thinks a spouse or SO can be "stolen" by someone else has been watching too many soap operas. No one leaves a relationship that they are happy in and that works well. So if seeing another relationship break up makes you suspect your husband will also leave you, I'd suggest some counseling or one of those marriage exploration weekends many churches run.

I won't be posting again in this thread. It's high time this thread got off the first page and sank out of sight (where it belonged in the first place).
Re: Dance teacher leaves wife for student.
Posted by borntodance
2/7/2007  1:24:00 PM
So you think that you and your mate are immune to problems, temptation and seduction. You do not live in the real world. I guess you think you can walk on water, too, huh?

Every relationship has problems and is not always 100% happy ALL the time. When they do have problems, that's when a couple should come together to work them out with each other or seek counseling from a professional.....not seek comfort from the opposite sex, which is when affairs get started.

Nothing good comes from divorce, unless the person is being physically abused in some way. Trust me....these 2 adulterers are not on their way to Happy Lane. Even if they decide to get married (because they think they've found 'true love'), they will always have trust issues with each other. There's a reason God said, 'You reap what you sow'.

I look forward to not reading anymore ignorant comments from you.

Re: Dance teacher leaves wife for student.
Posted by Happy Dancer
2/7/2007  4:03:00 PM
Last time I checked it was a free society and one can do as he pleases. 25 years is a very long time in a marriage and should be deemed successful. People do grow apart and relationships end for one reason or another.

I was in an unhappy marriage for 12 years and my wife left me for a guy with a criminal record. I feared for my children. She told me to get out and she wanted to be with this guy. I was distraught and sad, but once I started moving over to my new place I began feeling great, like I was freed from a prison sentence. With time everything worked out for the best and my mental health remained in tack. Had some legal, financial, kid, and mental
issues but everthing worked out with time. This is when I took on ballroom dancing for a hobby. One never knows what goes on in a marriage and life is short, very short if you are unhappy.

In the dance world there are lots of married people and events like this are threating. On the dance floor in studios everyone is under a microscope and relationship problems are over magnified.
Re: Dance teacher leaves wife for student.
Posted by I-Just-Wanna-Dance
2/7/2007  6:37:00 PM
See Happy Dancer... you pretend as though the wife is "innocent". Trust me I know that no one is perfect - as is not my significant other and I - but believe me that there is something that happened between the husband and wife FIRST to lead to a separation. And I do not believe that myself and my significant other are immune to problems, but we work on them. Unfortunately for some, no matter how much work you put into something, it can't be repaired, even after so long of a marriage. Especially if the marriage began as such an early time in both of the partners' lives. Even after so much devotion and help and counseling, some things are just over at a given point. I'm not saying the two involved should give up. I love these two people dearly; but you have to know when enough is enough. If you aren't happy, you aren't happy. And I love how you are so quick to judge my comments as ignorant. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, right? Obviously you've been a scorned woman though, so your comments are vastly wrought with hatred. But everyone has their problems. I'll probably be the next guy to dance with you on Friday night, and you'd never know.
Re: Dance teacher leaves wife for student.
Posted by quickstep
2/7/2007  6:57:00 PM
I've kept out of this one but here goes. The name Henry Jaques might not mean anything to most, unless you look up the records of those early years of dancing. He judged a medal I took. I think it was Gold. Afterwards he gave a little talk in which he said. never marry your dance partner. Statistics show it wont work. You know something. He was dead right.
Re: Dance teacher leaves wife for student.
Posted by Anonymous
2/7/2007  7:04:00 PM
"Afterwards he gave a little talk in which he said. never marry your dance partner. Statistics show it wont work. You know something. He was dead right."

Sometimes you just have to take your chances.

After all, if you go by statistics, marrying anyone may be a bad idea - the odds that it works aren't that much better.
Re: Dance teacher leaves wife for student.
Posted by Anonymous
2/7/2007  8:43:00 PM
I have heard of a dance teacher in Texas that has married and divorced
three of his students. This must be some type of record. Maybe one shouldn't marry his dance student or partner.

+ View More Messages

Copyright  ©  1997-2018 BallroomDancers.com