Log In



   Stay logged in?

Forgot Password?

User Status




Recover Password

Username or Email:

Change Image
Enter the code in the photo at left:

Before We Continue...

Are you absolutely sure you want
to delete this message?

Premium Membership

Upgrade to
Premium Membership!

Renew Your
Premium Membership!


Premium Membership includes the following benefits:

Don't let your Premium Membership expire, or you'll miss out on:

  • Exclusive access to over 1,400 video demonstrations of patterns in the full bronze, silver and gold levels.
  • Access to all previous variations of the week, including full video instruction of man's and lady's parts.
  • Over twice as many videos as basic membership.
  • A completely ad-free experience!


Sponsored Ad

+ View Older Messages

Re: New Partnership.
Posted by slowfox
10/28/2009  2:29:00 PM
Interesting that many of us are probably thinking "Diva" (as in lady partner). I noticed the poster was gender non-specific.
Re: New Partnership.
Posted by nseelos
10/28/2009  9:15:00 PM
Yes, I actually perceived the offending partner as male... but it seems I'm in the minority. :)
Re: New Partnership.
Posted by cola
10/28/2009  1:44:00 PM
I'm sorry for your situation. I myself need a very positive partner, instead of telling me what I'm doing wrong every single time....let's focus on just how to make it better. You help each other, not just one side badgering the other. Everyone practices differently, if this is as important to you as it is to me then the partnership won't last long. If you can ignore it and tune out the negativity then maybe you can make it last a year or more..but ask yourself if you can do it and if it is worth it? Of course another option is to just practice in front of a coach. Just let him observe and give his comments. Not on the quality of dancing but on the effectiveness of your practice. What do you think?
Re: New Partnership.
Posted by Days&Nights
10/28/2009  2:23:00 PM
Your sanity is important. Differences aside, your "partner" seems to be on track with how she expects you to dance with her. That said this appears to be a one sided partnership. You do not mention her background in dance. Could it be her own background is extensive? and can push you to a higher level of dancing? Just a thought. You may want to have a chat per se and ask her directly if there is anything she actually likes about you as her dance partner. If you give it some time - and still feel that this is not the right partner for you - move on. There are plenty of follows - looking for a willing and able lead.
Re: New Partnership.
Posted by nseelos
10/28/2009  9:10:00 PM
I'm not a dancer (yet), I aspire to be, although I know you should be able to take constructive criticism, it sounds like all this is is criticism. Subtle, yet important, difference. Some people have the need to make themselves feel better by making others feel bad. It seems you have found one of those. If I were you I'd move on and not waste time in this partnership. As you said, the clock is ticking. Find someone with a similar outlook (as in positive), and similar goals and you'll be better off. In life I have found the most important characteristic of a partner is that you have shared values. I believe this partner senses your consciousness of "lack of certain abilities" and is preying on them as a weak point for their own self-aggrandizement. RUN, don't walk, to a new partnership! (Just my opinion...) N
Copyright  ©  1997-2018 BallroomDancers.com