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Re: Dance teacher leaves wife for student.
Posted by diamonte
11/8/2009  5:48:00 PM
I agree with Ellen, the situation is not anyones business. I can recall a similar situation involving a married couple whose marriage was clearly on the rocks, the reason they joined a ballroom and latin dance school was to give them something to do other than work together, it didn't take long for the man to have a roving eye, quite a few of the young ladies ignored him, except one whom he became very close to. The director of the studio and some teachers and students not only confronted this girl but also shamed her to the ballroom and dance world, which we all know is quite small. It was wrong of everyone who got involved if anything their involvement caused more pain and confusion. This was a private matter, yes it unfolded in front of everyone but at the same time it was nobody's business. The wife left, then the husband about 6 months later but the girl stayed, she was ostracised by almost everyone. It was really quite sad. Someones relationship/friendship/association is not to be judged or speculated. Its no one's business.
Re: Dance teacher leaves wife for student.
Posted by A Bystander
10/1/2012  12:49:00 PM
It's sad to see so much judgment being passed on this situation. I agree with other people who said that these kinds of situations happen everywhere and in all walks of life. One spouse leaves another for the co-worker, her dentist, his neighbour, the best friend, the teacher, the student, the boss, the patient and the list goes on. This one just happened to be in the dance world.

Who are we to judge How, When and Where people fall in love? Not all relationships are meant to last forever. It's a fact of life, not something that should be viewed as shameful, outrageous or whatever you want to call it. Sure, people get hurt because we're humans: he have emotions. But given the choice between staying in a relationship that doesn't work anymore and finding happiness with a new person - which would you choose? (assuming you're not a masochist)

Also, why point the finger of blame at the person who instigated the alleged breakup? BOTH people are responsible for their actions. The person who leaves their spouse is equally responsible because they made that choice consciously. They weren't drugged and forced to make that decision at gunpoint. And if those choices lead to a happier life, who are we to get all moralistic about it? It's their life! And their business, not yours! How would you feel if everybody around you criticized YOU for the choices you made in life (regardless of how big or small)? If you're feeling outraged by it all then you need to ask yourself why it's triggering that kind of response in YOU. You will most likely find that it's pushing one of your sensitive buttons in which case, that's an issue you need to address in your own life vs project it onto someone you barely know.

Get off your high horses and get a life. Focus on bettering your own life vs judging other people and their choices. Instead, you should aim to respect other people's choices and hope that it works out for the best for all involved because in retrospect everything happens for a reason.
Re: Dance teacher leaves wife for student.
Posted by O.Z.
10/2/2012  6:02:00 PM
This is happening everyday not just with Ballroom Dance Teachers. How about the Tennis Coach and pupil. Or a secretary and her boss. Is there any difference there. Thats life.
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