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Re: Asking a guy to dance
Posted by Jack P
12/16/2009  11:21:00 PM
I feel good whenever a lady asks me to dance with her. I would never say no if invited by a lady.

A tip to ladies: Please keep in mind that when you invite a guy to dance, you should follow his lead, no matter bad or good lead. If it's a bad lead, you may go along just for the sake of fun. If you try to correct him too much, he might be turned off and not enjoy dancing with you.

I have experience with a lady who is a good dancer. But whenever she could not follow my lead (good lead that I learned from professionals; she obviously hadn't learned the move) she tries to correct me. That usually turns me off.
Re: Asking a guy to dance
Posted by dancingdjmack
4/14/2010  11:58:00 AM
Great comments as I read through them.

As a Dj and dance instructor I gently admonish my dancers that in the Ballroom Dance world there is only a leader, follower and dance etiquette. Here men and women are equal in every way, only they have different jobs to perform and synchronize in order to create great art. Romantic and social traditions fall outside the Ballroom floor and as has already been said, dancers are here to dance, period (and of course make new dancing friends).

While it's true that "outside the floor" tradition says a man should initiate and ask, at the same time it is more common for men to be intimidated with dancing than for women. Yes, we agree that there are more females out there that generally get rhythm, beat and balance, than males. Thus it's quite balanced and again being equal it doesn't and must not matter who asks who to dance. Much more important (I stress this to the guys) is that NO ONE should ever turn anyone down for a first dance request. If you do YOU :( are in violation of Ballroom Etiquette. :)

See ya on the floor...... DjMack
Re: Asking a guy to dance
Posted by silver
11/17/2010  6:34:00 AM
"Much more important (I stress this to the guys) is that NO ONE should ever turn anyone down for a first dance request. If you do YOU :( are in violation of Ballroom Etiquette. :)"

I generally agree with you DJ, but there are times when turning down someone's first dance offer shouldn't be considered a violation. There is a guy in our area who sometimes hurts ladys he dances with in the manner he leads turns. He cranks their arms. There is a woman who is known to get her legs too close to your groin. (She's feeling you out, and it borders on being a sex crime.) She does make you quite good at outside partner figures, though. Another person's personal hygene isn't always what it should be. We don't see these people too often anymore because people have turned them down for dances. I consider it my duty to warn friends about these other people should they show up at a social dance. I wouldn't want my friends hurt or violated.
So there are times when saying "No thank you" is appropriate.
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