
Silver, that is an excellent summation of some of the serious weaknesses in pro/am development as well as some good recommendations for maintaining the proper relationship with one's pro.
Your best point is that the student is paying for all of this stuff. Everything - including what the instructor wears for the showcase (

) - should be the student's choice.
Pro/am is perfectly suitable for those folks who have money to burn and who just are not sufficiently mature in their dancing to make a partnership work.
Very good post. Good luck.
jj