I'm curious. Why do you suggest that the problem of unpartnered widows is peculiar to the US? Are surviving-spouse demographics that much different in Europe?

I'm not taking issue with your point. I would just like some clarification.

jj

There just aren't the numbers needed. In Europe, there are far more men that know how to dance. A competitive couple from our studio went to a comp in Italy. In the senior 2 category (over 55, I believe), there were 85 couples entered!
Also, I find that the older gentlemen who persevere and really learn how to dance, suddenly think they are hot stuff and want a younger partner. Younger women don't want them, but that doesn't stop them from trying and rejecting women their own age. These are my observations from managing a studio and trying very hard to match women up with appropriate partners.

I'll never dance with a young woman again!

Seriously, I had a much younger partner for about a year and a half. She put up with me because she wanted the dance training and had zero prospects for another partner (this was not in Atlanta). As should have been expected, we never really learned to communicate with each other but were wise enough to understand the value of the partnership (even though, competitively, we were a terrible couple - she never wanted to practice).

My experience tells me that your comment about skilled older leads - while not pleasant to contemplate - may be true more often than not.

However, I can honestly say that I've never rejected an older woman in favor of a younger one. At the time of my partnership with the younger woman, I had not danced in a few months and had no other immediate prospects.

Thanks for the explanation about the situation in Europe.

And bless you for helping students to find partners.

jj

Despite your opinions on pro-am partnerships, I think we could make it work.

jj

Because the numbers of single ladies over 50 at public ballrom dances ( and attending class lessons ) is so minimal its not countable .

In matter of fact, most schools in the UK will not take unpartnered ladies ( or men in most cases )irrespective of age .

The facts in the US are quite documentable.. in fact, most of the chain schools would not have survived, thus depriving future champions, of the opportunity to enter the world of dance ( You know we have just had this very discussion on a nother site ).

In my experiences in Europe there are more available partners because there are a lot more people who are dancing period.

Europe is very different than the US. We spend all our time slouched in front of the idiot boxes becoming idiots. We used to have dances and people who knew how to dance and people who knew how to converse, oh and did I mention people who knew how to get their giant behinds off couches period?

Telemark, why so hostile? Perhaps jodymichelle should have said "part of her job", but you can't possibly be indicating that just because a man can lead in a pro/am - and not as the pro - he's finished with his training forever.

Funny, I was just having a conversation this morning with my partner about the wildly unfair attitude towards pro-am students.

Quickly, dancesportdave, Im not sure if there is a rule regarding men competing as followers. I would suggest contacting the organizers of the competition and asking them directly.

The question was asked, If the men could lead properly, why would they want/need to pay a pro partner to dance with them? Well, for starters, the rate of learning can be much faster in a pro-am situation than in an amateur partnership. In the former, the entire lesson is spent on the leader and he gets to try out his understanding and ability to execute his actions on a presumably more responsive follow. He then gets immediate feedback about what he could be better to move more efficiently with the lady, as the lady, in this case, would have a much clearer understanding of where she should be and how she should arrive there. In an amateur situation, especially at the beginning stages, its a case of the blind leading the blind. Yes, they take lessons together, but when left to their own devices, they will probably struggle to apply what they learned.

There are dozens of other advantages to dancing pro-am which I started to write about but decided to delete as this post is already getting very long

Are there many valuable lessons that can be learned in an amateur partnership? Absolutely, but that should not cause one to dismiss the advantages of learning in a pro-am situation. As with all things, there are pros and cons.

There are MANY pro-am students that take their dancing very seriously and work just as hard as everyone else to improve. Most cant actually afford to have all of their practice time be accompanied by their teacher, so they have to practice on their own quite a bit. Its not fair to lump them in with the other pro-ams that dont really take the dancing very seriously.

In regards to those pro-ams that are just competing to get to dress up and have a good time Need I remind anyone that it is those pro-ams that fuel the entire ballroom industry? Without those pro-ams who are happy to spend huge amounts of money to get to dance around with a professional for the sake of having a nice time, we would not have any of the competitions that all of the professional and amateurs attend. They are also the ones that pay the salaries of many professionals and get them to all of their competitions. Eliminate that entire body of people that we love to demean, and suddenly we have far fewer competitions and the professionals would have far less money to spend on receiving training and traveling from one competition to another. Competitions would become a rather sad affair and spectators would end up watching much smaller events with whatever professionals happen to be local. The entire industry as we know it would wildly altered. Everyone that participates in dancesport in the US is to some degree begin carried by pro-ams, so please, regardless of how one feels about their dancing as a group, lets be a little less insulting, shall we?

No, it cannot. Your statement is absolutely and demonstrably false.


Nothing is funnier than watching those who do pro/am as they discover that they can't actually dance with anyone but their pros.


No, there aren't and no, they don't. In fact, avoiding the hard work of learning to dance is one of the big selling points used to con amateurs into doing pro/am.

The central problem with pro/am is that the student has no partner, no one with whom to practice, no one to share the expense.

Also, in an am-am lesson, the professional is freed to watch the students from all angles. When the professional must also serve as a partner, the professional loses those perspectives.

Pro/am is appropriate for a very tiny percentage of the ballroom dancing public, typically the elderly for whom the prospects of an amateur partnership are nil. Everyone else is much better off with an amateur partner.


Only if you want to repeat another lie.

The truth is that the ballroom-dance industry has pushed many students into pro/am primarily by misrepresenting the nature of the ballroom dance world. When a professional tells an amateur that the amateur will be better off doing pro/am than by finding an amateur partner, the professional is lying.

If you want fewer insults, try being more honest.

jj