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Re: ok how long does it really take..............
Posted by nloftofan1
7/27/2013  4:47:00 PM
In reply to your question (One unanticipated note. I now tell friends what I doing and they all think I'm just grazing for women..............Is that a common response?), Gene Kelly said he took up dancing to meet girls.

Other people have mentioned this, but remember the old joke: Tourist in New York to native—"How do you get to Carnegie Hall?" Native's answer—"Practice." If you don't practice it doesn't matter how many lessons you take. You're wasting your money. That's when you find out (preferably with continuing advice from an instructor) what it actually takes to make your body do what your instructor teaches, or what someone at a party showed you, or what you learned from a video. A general rule of thumb in dancing is that if you are having to work hard, you're probably doing it wrong. Practice also helps you remember the details, both in your head and "muscle memory."
Re: ok how long does it really take..............
Posted by ladydance
7/28/2013  8:55:00 AM
Sounds like you have found a system that works for you. As for friends thinking you are "grazing for women", nothing you can do about that. North Americans have weird ideas about dancing. My husband was talking to co-workers and they were amazed and appalled that he dances with other women at parties. They continued to be shocked at the notion that I have a competitive partner and that I go to comps with him! Several of the women said they would love to learn how to dance but their husbands won't and they won't allow them to dance with other men. I have tried to explain that dancing, while intimate, is not sexual. Men are very threatened by dancing and will always try to make it unseemly.
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