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At crossroads in dance career: help!!
Posted by uplovesdown
4/8/2014  2:31:00 AM
I have been competing in ballroom dance for the past 3 years with my partner who is also my boyfriend. We started with Latin, but started standard a year ago and about half a year ago we stopped Latin altogether. We have the most amazing coaches and great training opportunities in standard and there are practically no more Latin dancers left where we live, so everything is going for standard. The problem is, I love Latin to death and nothing makes me feel more alive than dancing Latin. Well, that's not it: my boyfriend is a natural at standard, and is traumatized from bad Latin coaches in the past. It's been very difficult and slow trying to get his confidence back up by doing some Latin for fun, and we don't have the same understanding coaches available for Latin as we do for standard. I've also got inflexible ankles and big knees, and these problems are really evident in Latin. On top of it all, we have very little money for dancing since we are both full-time students, and I know we are better off time/money-wise to focus on one style, especially since we are well within the adult age category. Should I let go of my dream to do 10-dance/Latin?? Or should I keep trying to find ways to do both? Has anyone been through this problem before? I would appreciate any advice!! Thank you.
Re: At crossroads in dance career: help!!
Posted by Jeravae
4/8/2014  2:28:00 PM
Before I give you my opinion, I just think it's great that you compete at all. How wonderful!

If I were you, I would never give up a dream, however, sometimes the only way to realize that dream is to know when the right time to strike is. Perhaps that's not now for Latin, but you could make Standard your stepping stone for the moment. Maybe by allowing your BF to realize his dream of competing in standard, he'll repay you by doing latin when the time comes. You say money is tight, so maybe focusing your resources on one thing will be more beneficial that you thought it might be.

If you give standard a try and you know you must do Latin to be happy, then you'll know that it's time to really push forward and fight for your goals as a Latin dancer too. You may have to save a little to fly in good coaches, but it will be much more worth it than wasting money on bad coaches. I don't think you should worry about your ankles or knees. That type of thing has a way of changing as you train.

GOOD LUCK! And happy dancing!:)


Re: At crossroads in dance career: help!!
Posted by waynelee
4/8/2014  7:59:00 PM
It might help us if we knew where you are located.
Re: At crossroads in dance career: help!!
Posted by fkilani
4/19/2014  11:35:00 PM
maybe a point of view from one who only dances socially can help, If you love Latin just keep dancing for fun and do not focus on the technique at least at first and tell your boyfriend it just for fun and he can use whatever technique he is comfortable with , you don't have to spend time and money on coaches, you don't even have to practice moves and techniques. just put some music and dance. as you try to do so you can figure out on your own what to do.
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