Thoughts on this topic, and I realize this is an OLD thread..but hey...
It took me forever to come out of my shell and dance. I remembering watching my ex of 16 years dance the Bachata with a guy once. She said "YOU should have been dancing the Bachata with me".
New Year's eve 2012, I danced with so many women, not formal, just social Salsa dancing. Broke my heart to tell a husband "hey go dance with your wife" and have him say "no, it's ok, you go dance with her". I saw her sitting there, on the sidelines, watching life go by. She lit up when I asked her to dance. Was it a matter of seduction or impropriety? Not at all. It was all about being alive.
Dance can be as intimate or not as you make it. For some, it is crucial and the idea of a different partner can evoke jealousy and even rage. The love of my life is an avid dancer. I am learning the Bolero. Why? Because I am never going to miss out on any chance to be there with the woman I love ever again, enjoying those moments. I am certainly not worried about her dancing with other partners, that's not the point. If you love someone, you want THEM to be there enjoying those moments in life. I know she can dance circles around me. Will I stop learning? Heck no, that is already failing...to not do IS the ONLY true failure.
My advice to males who love their partners and are challenged by the idea of dancing...get off your @sses, live your life to the fullest, you only have this one. And this is by no means meant as a judgment as much as it is a stern warning from a very real life experience.
Well, coming from a man's perspective, I loved to dance ballroom. Even did a couple of competitions and showcases. Met lots of ladies and had good times.
The woman I met a few years ago also loves to dance, but she is into the nightclub style of dancing. The shake your booty, bump-n-grind kind of dancing, which just doesn't appeal to me at all. My style is American Smooth or Int. Standard. She doesn't care for those because she doesn't want to spend any time trying to learn all those dances.
She and I are very much in love and will be together for the rest of our lives, but we don't dance anymore. Someday, after we retire, maybe we'll start dancing again. As long as it's ballroom.
And there was heard and audible cry from the female dance population as another male dancers leaves the ballroom.....
Maybe you could get her interested in Latin and Rhythm dances. Mambo, Cha cha, Samba, Salsa would really get her heart rate up! Then you could dance with her and smooth with the other ladies of your studio.
My husband does dance, he started taking salsa classes with me about a year ago, and enjoys it, but he doesn't really like going out at night, so I go out once a week with a group of friends we met in our classes. Every once in a while my husband does come along, and those are the best nights, but mostly I go out on my own. I dance salsa, bachata, and even kizomba, which is danced in a very close hold, but everyone I dance with knows I'm married, and it's always been just about the dance, so I don't feel guilty about it at all. The people I've met while out dancing are nearly all there for one reason only, to dance, and I haven't seen any "pick-up" activity going on, unlike in other sorts of dance clubs. I love dancing, and I am much happier ever since I started, which carries over to the rest of my life...I'm in a much better mood at home if I can get my weekly dance fix.