Take your song to a professional and ask him/her. Try both dances and see what works best in the time you have available. Both of you have to dance together and if one can't get the basics down and on beat, it really doesn't matter which dance you choose. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Unless your guests are dancers, no one is going to notice the mistakes. Just don't look down at the floor, which when filmed (and it will be!) makes it look like you are staring at his crotch and him, at your chest.
It is a cha cha. It is far too fast for a rumba. I would suggest you find a version that is slower and it will be a rumba. If you are dancing in your wedding dress and high heels, it will be hard to to do a cha cha. Cha Cha is not an easy dance to master, the basic step is far more complicated than most.
Hi everyone. I will be getting married soon and our first song is to Dean Martin's Sway. I'm wondering which dance style is good for this song. I had one friend tell me Rumba and another tell me Cha Cha. I'm so confused. Help please.
Being a single man, I dance almost exclusively with other men's wives. And, yes, I still find it intimidating approaching the table where the two of them are seated and asking her to dance. But realize that the other man expects that you will dance with his wife.
One thing I have found that helps to "grease the skids", so to speak, is to take part in the free dance lessons that sometimes precedes a dance. And make a conscious effort to NOT partner with your wife during the lesson. Everyone is very casual during the lesson and, in most instances, you can find yourself having danced with numerous partners. Be cordial, get their names and just have fun. Then when the actual evening of dancing gets underway, you will find it easy to seek out these same women and to ask them, by name, for a dance.
As for the conversational tendencies of many women while dancing, I, like you, am not powered solely by muscle memory and must therefore stay somewhat focused on what I am doing. The women seem to understand and will eventually stop talking altogether, equating less talk to a more enjoyable dance. I do hope someday to be able to carry on a conversation while dancing. I'm just not there, yet.
Rule of thumb, you NEVER turn down a request to dance - Unless you have a bad foot/ankle or you don't have your dance shoes on. It's just considered plain rude. Besides a dance is all of what 2 or 3 mins?
The ONLY way to get better is to get out there on the dance floor and DANCE. OK maybe you don't feel like a gold level student. NO ONE does when they start out. Everyone makes mistakes - you just laugh about it and go on. If you partner knows a step you don't AND you want to know about it, ask her to show you.
Acting flaky on the side lines will keep all the girls from asking you to dance.
If this place is not up to par with your personal standards, run out the money you paid in and find a new studio.
I don't think you have anything to apologize for, personally. As a manager of a dance studio, I wade carefully through the fields of dance ego on a daily basis. There is always an instructor upset about someone or something. The more professional never let on to their students when they are pissed. Others have dumped well paying customers because they feel they aren't valued enough by the student. It is beyond tiresome when I have to talk some instructor down off the hissy fit ledge. So what do you want? If you want to stay at that studio, talk to the owner, ask her if you upset her in some way. As far as the parties go, Salsa is only one of many dances. If she plays too many, she will get complaints. My advice is to learn other dances so you don't sit out so much. Or find a salsa club or group in your area that dances it exclusively. If you act weird around her, then she will ignore you. Continue to be pleasant and it will blow over.
Here area few typical entires into the Step-Point figure in Foxtrot:
(1) Dance 1-3 Open Reverse Turn / Open Left Box, taking 1/4 turn to left to end with man backing diagonal wall. Either extend frame slightly to achieve a non-contact hold, or release frame altogether to achieve a two-hand hold. Follow with Step-Points backward (man back, lady forward). An odd number of these will leave the man's left foot free, so I suggest following with a Reverse Twinkle or a Back Run (SQQ). An even number will leave the man's right foot free to follow with a Feather Finish, taking 3/8 turn to left to end facing wall.
(2) If you dance a full Reverse Turn / Open Left Box you can likewise follow with Step-Points, this time with man dancing the forward part while lady dances back. Take the normal amount of turn on the Open Reverse, but release the hold as above. The first step of the first Step-Point will be taken with man dancing in line with lady. An odd number can be followed by a Feather Step, while and even number can be followed by an Outside Check & Develope, an Offset Twinkle, or a Passing Change.
Speaking of Passing Changes, they have quite a bit in common with the Step-Points. They can be taken forward or back, they begin and end on the same foot, and have the same alignments and amounts of turn. So they're almost entirely interchangeable, and can be mixed and matched at will. So for a full list of precedes and follows for Step-Points, just check either the same list for Passing Changes, or even for the Bronze level Change Steps O.P.!
(3) The most popular entry into Step-Points is probably the Syncopated Underarm turn to Right. The underarm turn is a slick way to transition from closed hold to open facing, and the figure leaves you perfectly set up with your left foot free to step forward outside partner on the lady's left, to begin a series of Step-Points. The only difference here is that the man will be facing generally toward center (alternating between DC and DC against LOD), so your follows will be a bit different than the version taken after the Open Reverse. My recommendation is to follow with a Grapevine to Right (two-hand hold), an Open Left Box, or if you're at a corner, an Offset Twinkle.
Re: famous dancers Posted by rkonert 1/30/2006 12:16:00 PM
Reply Since we're talking about famous dancers does anybody know anything about Linda Dean? ------------------------ Well this question is over ten years old and nobody's answered it yet, so I will.
Linda Dean has been a very popular coach specializing in Theater Arts/Cabaret, and a ubiquitous judge on the NDCA circuit for over thirty years. She achieved fame and her national titles as partner to George Hendricks in 1971, when they were the American Style Champions, and then to Vernon Brock, with whom she was the United States National Professional Latin American Champion from 1975-78. (source:NDCA.org)
She also partnered World Exhibition Champion and United States Latin American Champion Rufus Dustin, though I don't know if they held any titles together.
Linda suffered from knee problems following her years as champion, a consequence, she said, of the athleticism and strenuous limits to which Vernon's choreography pushed her. Even so, she continued coaching and judging nonstop, a testament to her determination and work ethic.
She has a Facebook page, though it hasn't been posted to in almost a year: https://www.facebook.com/linda.dean4/ I realize as I write this that I haven't seen her recently, so I hope she's well.
Welcome to the world of the dance diva. She is immature and short sighted (upsetting a paying client) but this is not uncommon. You have insulted her, first by switching instructors and then by not dancing with her at the party. Find another studio.