"Why is your counting any less likely to get off phrase than your dancing.
Lets tell you what happens in our studio. Young and old alike have a turn of counting the timing for any particular group taught. The class dance, the nominated one dances and calls the timing to music. This is first done solo. If a mistake is made we do it again.
Also as we start the disk might already be playing. (You must have a tape where the teacher calls
5 6 7 8 ). We would never be allowed to start straight in . This is typical . I pick up the counting to myself 1234 5678 maybe again, then out loud 5678 to start the class on 1234. Is that clear. We have 12 year olds doing this."
And if you check back in a bit into general practice, you will typically find one or more dancing to their count - which is out of synch with the music! Counting gets you in that classic error of believing that something is so because your lips said it was. I say "one" so it must be one... WRONG.
"I dont think there are any here who can' t tell which part of an eight bar phrase is being played, whether it be the fourth or the eighth."
Fine, then there's no need to puts words on it. If you can hear it, you can dance it - and dance it with a lot more feeling when you let the music speak directly to your soul, and not get detoured through your verbal centers first.
"Test. Try Tango 4/4. Two Walk. Link. Closed Promenade. Back Corte. If you dont stand still for two beats you can' t do a Reverse Turn on the correct beat. Try that without counting ."
If it feels wrong to do the figure in the wrong place in the music, you don't do it there. No need to worry about the counting theory of why it's wrong - it feels wrong so it is wrong.
But something a more advanced dancer than you would instantly point out is that if you chance the emphasis of the figure, it's no longer wrong to dance it in that position on the music, because now you are dancing it in a way that matches the music. There is no "correct beat" for a reverse turn, there is only a correct place for a given way of interpreting a reverse turn.
"Just for the record i and my partner never dance out of time. I am always aware of my steps and the beats being played. And I can also see imediately if any couple are out of time. Its called being trained correctly from the beginning."
Demonstrably wrong, as you've just made a beginner-level false claim about what it means to be in our out of time!