Hi, I'm a guy and I have trouble loosening up when I'm doing a cha-cha or rumba. My friend tells me that when she sees me dance, I look too focused and stiff compared to other male dancers. I'm thinking that my upper body looks really stuff too.

How do I start to fix this? I heard this is a common problem with guys. I also hear that to make cha-cha and rumba look nice, I'm supposed to make it look sharp, but wouldn't I need to focus for that? How do I balance this?

MCWei. If you want to loosen up try Salsa.. Keep your shoulders fairly static and get those hips moving. Learn how to isolate them from the upper body.
Also do you have the correct turn out of the feet when performing the Rumba Samba and the Cha. Learn the correct technique for the Cucaracha. Which is. The foot moves to the side and then, and only then, rotate the hips in a figure eight over that foot.I believe all the information you need can still be found on this site concerning the correct use of the hips in the Rumba. Take note if it tells you that you must rotate around your own centre. Anywhere outside of that can look over done.