Diana. You should have a routine, but be able to change it slightly in case you are brought to a halt by another couple. I have seen couples who when stopped, have had to start right at the beginning of their routine they weren't skilled enought to be able to pick it up on the next bar of music and continue. Practise Practise Practise. Thats the answer and of course it is the males responsibility to look after this part and lead.