Wow. thanks and appreciate what you know. Thanks a lot

Actually they have tried to answer your question. It is hard to teach a woman to do this and honestly not many new dancers are going to be able to do this. It is hard to do because it has to do with isolating the muscles. Explain to the woman that she needs to fill up his hand with her back like filling a teacup. Have her go through this several times and explain that this isn't putting weight or really even pressure in contact but rather making a point of connection so she can understand what his hand is doing while he is leading.

Understood and Agreed....Thanks a lot for explaining things from the other end of the world...

I am glad someone understands because as a newbie to dance and a woman I have no idea what is being talked about? I know what frame is and hand positions but I don't understand the pressure: who is applying it the gentleman or the lady? If this is something I need to check to see if I am doing I would rather correct it before it becomes a habit. I know in class when I get nervouse about a new step I have a tendency to apply pressure (squeeze) to my instructers arm but quickly realize it and release my hand. Is this the pressure you are talking about? thanks for any clarification that can be given.
Terri

"I don't understand the pressure: who is applying it the gentleman or the lady?"

Pressure by physical definition must be mutual. The light pressure between the man's right hand and the lady's left back has to be applied equally by both. If it's not, the hold would be expanding or contracting until it is.

Something that's not often realized, but often encountered, is that less experienced couples in which neither partner comes with built-in padding, will find it hard to have a good connection at both the lady's left back and between their chests. It takes a lot of experience for a lady to learn how to fill up the space between the man's ribcage and a reasonable position of his wrist, without distorting her posture.

As a result, to learn the left back/right wrist part of the connection, it can be useful to spend a substantial period of time intentionally dancing with a slight space between the bodies. This will tend to develop both dancers' sense of balance over their own feet, and their perception of the partner through their frame. Only later, once that is set, will it be possible to dance in contact with sound technique and while maintaining a functional frame - try to do it all too soon, and many parts will suffer.

Y E S......