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Re: male vs. female height
Posted by adrian
6/7/2007  2:08:00 AM
i have the same problem
Re: male vs. female height
Posted by Ray
6/7/2007  7:38:00 AM
Yes, you can be taller. While I am 6 ft, I frequently (every chance I get)dance with 3 ladies that are as tall or taller than I am. One is about 3 inches taller. They are fun to dance with because they "dance tall" too. No lady is fun to dance with if she slumps and tries to be shorter. A tall lady allows the male to stretch his steps and sway in a way that many shorter women cannot do. Don't get me wrong. It is fun to dance with shorter women too but I must confess that it is difficult to dance a waltz with someone that is seven inches shorter.

Bravo for the tall lady. Guys, if you are not dancing with them because of your ego - try it just a few times (until you get used to the way the other dances) and you will find that dancing with a tall lady is great for your ego - and hopefully hers too.
Re: male vs. female height
Posted by Dancing4HIM
2/4/2009  12:47:00 PM
Ray, I'm fairly new on this site and have found Dance Talk to be wonderful and so helpful, particularly replies such as yours (and Ellen's too).
I'm about 5'8-1/2 in heels and occasionally dance with a man who I love dancing with, but he's a bit shorter than I - I think he enjoys dancing with me too. However, for a few weeks now, I've been concerned about height! By the way, my girlfriend who is 4" taller than I, is VERY concerned, rather self-conscious about her height. Another thing: It seems like most of the women at one of the places I dance, wear pretty spike- heels. (I'm a bit concerned about their backs!) But getting to the point, your encouragement to DANCE TALL and NOT SLUMP and everything else you said was very, very encouraging. In a few replies, I've read "Dancing into your knees." This is a "dumb" question, but does this mean a tall woman can dance BR and Latin dances with shorter men with her knees bent? And one more thing...Are lower heels as attractive as high heels?
Thanks again.
Re: male vs. female height
Posted by Tree
8/18/2016  11:09:00 AM
What if u r 177cm tall...and your a girl 😅
Re: male vs. female height
Posted by ballroomchick
9/19/2016  2:23:00 PM
I'm 5'10" tall. I wear 2 1/2" heels. I don't slump for anyone. I don't have a large selection of instructors - just 2 that are 5' 11" and they are worth their weight in gold. I do really well in American Smooth. Rhythm I work harder and have to make sure I really roll through the feet and have a lot of natural animation.

When I social dance I don't care how tall the guy is, they don't want to into a closed frame position anyway. Well except one old fart that was 5'2" and wanted to snuggle his head on my chest. I walked off the floor from that one.
Re: male vs. female height
Posted by Ellen
6/7/2007  9:34:00 AM
They say that the ideal height is for the man to be about 4 inches taller than the woman.

But I'm also 5'8" in bare feet and I wouldn't dance much if I waited only for partners that tall! I often dance with men shorter than I am in heels.

Whether a height difference matters depends on your goals. For social dancing, it makes next to no difference. For competitive dancing, hieght difference matters less in latin than in ballroom. At the lower levels of ballroom competition, I'd say it might be a slight disadvantage in your overall look, but if you develop a nice topline and dance well into your knees, it shouldn't be too visible. If your ambition is to make it to the top in competitive dancing, a taller partner would probably be better for you.

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Posted by Sissy
6/27/2007  3:18:00 AM
Well I totally understand you! i'm 5'7 in bare feet and there are a lot of times that I dance with shortr guys but it depends on your partner! I always wanna believe that it seems beautiful as I feel beautiful while dancing! The point is that despite the competitions height doesn't matter if your pertner is good! it's not very nice dancing with a partner too tall either!I believe that only the couple and the dance itself matters so i guess I'm over it
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Posted by shuelin
7/5/2007  8:14:00 AM
My wife is 5'9" and I am 5'7" with short legs, on a good day. Those numbers are barefoot...so add 3" for her shoes...we really don't have any issues with the height...in fact most women where we dance are taller then the men...

Some of the men have issues with that but that is their issue, which leaves me several partners to choose from.

We won a coaching lesson with Nick Kos...from DWTS and he said our tango and waltz lines were exellent, you could tell there was a height difference but the form more than made up for it...

However we have a friend who has a bad back and is 5'4" and when he dances with my wife he sometimes hurts it because there is almost an 8" difference. But he knows now what patterns they can do without bothering his back.

So my 2 cents...if you are comfortable and dance tall and your partner is comfortable there should not be many issues.
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Posted by Charlestonissippi
2/25/2008  2:35:00 PM
very true. it's all about being comfortable with that person. Obviously looks and appearance wise, it would look "better" to dance with someone who's taller than you, but if you don't find anything wrong with it, then i think it's fine
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Posted by Serendipidy
2/25/2008  3:49:00 PM
A tall lady can always come down through the knees with a shorter partner. But if a taller man tries to come down through the knees with a shorter lady it can look terrible. In a competition in a competition dress for the lady it is managable. For the man it isn't.

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